Ignite the Light
Self Improvement, Empowerment, Family & Parenting
In today's society kids hardly get to enjoy their childhood, as they are faced with mounting pressures at school, within their family, and among their peers. Children are overexposed to violence and deprived of lessons on self-love and inner peace . . . but imagine a world where they are given tools to speak their truth, follow their hearts, and above all believe in themselves. You see, deep inside every one of us is a light that shines brightly when we are aligned with our higher self-our absolute best self.
When we allow fear to drive our action, we dim that light within. Yet when we believe in ourselves, speak our truth, and do what feels right in our hearts, we ignite the light and become the best possible version of ourselves.
Whether you are a parent, a teacher, a child-care worker, or just a person who would like to leave this world a little more peaceful than you found it, this book will give you the tools to educate, enlighten, and empower our children to see that they are perfect just as they are. Ignite the Light is a practical step-by-step manual for change that provides tools from which all children—and all families—will benefit.
In this book, Savini, a teacher and mother helps us give children the tools to feel empowered and to be their absolute best. What I liked about this book was that it didn’t just focus on what children needed to have in order to be great, but the work that parents needed to do as well. Savini points out that we pass a lot of our “stuff,” onto our children and a lot of the time we don’t realize it. She points out the importance of clearing our own blocks in life, and learning to empower and love ourselves so that we can pass these tools on authentically to our children.
This book was an easy read, but I often found myself taking days between chapters so that I could reflect on its teachings. One thing that I absolutely loved about this book was that Savini frequently gave web addresses and book titles for tools that parents and teachers can find useful in helping their child acknowledge their feelings and ignite their light.
I don’t frequently give five star reviews, but this book really knocked it out of the park. I loved Savini’s approachable and non-preachy style, and appreciate her being so forthcoming with tools that I can use. I know that this book will always be on my shelf and that I will reference it often for both myself and for my daughter.
This book is broken up into three parts. In part one, “See the Light” we are shown how to see the child within and what beliefs are holding us back. In part two, “Ignite the Light: The Seven Essentials” we are shown how to respond to life instead of react to it and thus teach our children to do the same. Some of the essentials we are taught are “loving Yourself” and to speak our truth. In part three, “Be the Light” we are taught how to put the seven essentials from part two into practice in our lives right away.
My favorite chapter is entitled, “Healing the Child Within” where we learn to heal our negative beliefs from childhood and be our absolute best. Overall, I really enjoyed this book and recommend it to everyone, even those who don’t work with children as this book helps ignite the light in adults as well.
I acknowledge that I received this book free of charge from Hay House in exchange for my honest and unbiased opinion of the book.
We expect so much from our kids academically, that emotional intelligence is often overlooked. Savini points out that we are constantly teaching our children through our actions. In order to teach our kids how to thrive, we first have to demonstrate these things in our own lives.
I was personally taught as a kid that any feeling but happy was not desired. If I was sad or angry, frustrated or upset in any way, my mom tried to “fix” it so that I would be happy again. She still tells me to put on my best face and to show off my smile. I did learn how to do just that. It’s one of the reasons that I’m great at speaking in front of a crowd. I’ve been sick as a dog and gotten up in front of a group of people to give a talk and when I’m finished people tell me that they never would have known. I can put on a happy face and fake it until I make it.
That works if you’re an actor or a speaker, at least some of the time, but what about those other feelings? What happens to that anger and frustration and sadness when it’s covered with a smile? I don’t think that those feelings ever go away, they just build up until they are too big to handle, or transmute into sickness of the body, mind, and spirit.
One of the most important lessons we can teach our kids is that ALL feelings are okay. Savini points out that feelings are signals, or flags to what choices we should be making. If something doesn’t feel right, we should listen to that feeling rather than stuffing it down and hoping it goes away. The more we are true to our feelings, the more happy we can feel overall.
Of course, as parents, we want our kids to be happy. But sometimes, they also need to be sad or angry or frustrated, or lonely, or tired, or feel left out, or overwhelmed or anxious, or whatever. Our job is not to make them feel happy all the time, it’s to help them to understand their feelings and discover what it means about what the next right action is to take based on those feelings to bring them back to a state of contentment. Savini talks about the importance of responding to life rather than reacting to it, and of coming from a place of love rather than a place of fear. If we are coming from a place of love when trying to understand our child’s feelings, then there is no feeling to be afraid of. Love will enhance good feelings and disperse the bad. Fear will do the opposite. We can choose love over fear.
So, the question is, how do we do that? Savini outlines seven “Essentials” that we can practice ourselves in order to teach our children. Parents can teach these essentials to their kids and teachers can teach them to their students. And anyone can teach them to the child within each of us. The seven essentials are:
1. Love Yourself
2. Feel Your Feelings
3. Quiet the Mind
4. Tune In
5. Remove Toxic Thoughts
6. Speak Your Truth
7 .Plug In
Many of these essentials are things that I’ve been working on already, and so they really resonated with me. After describing each of the essentials, Savini devotes the entire last section of the book to suggesting practical exercises to make them a part of everyday life. As with anything, they will only work if you take time to do the work rather than just reading about it.
I encourage every parent or teacher to read Ignite the Light by Vicki Savini and watch the world change, one child at a time, beginning with yourself.
FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinion in this review is unbiased and reflects my honest, personal, opinions about the book.