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Iyanla Vanzant

Self Improvement, Empowerment, Relationships, Inspirational, Spirituality, Health & Healing


Too many of us feel trapped in stagnant romantic, family, or workplace relationships. Weighed down by toxic thoughts and emotions, we might be quick to judge and slow to pardon, and self-righteous about our feelings as we dwell on memories of what we or others did (or failed to do).

In this new book and CD, Iyanla Vanzant challenges us to liberate ourselves from the wounds of the past and to embrace the new power of forgiveness.

With Iyanla's 21-Day Forgiveness Plan, you'll explore relationship dynamics with your parents, children, friends, partners, co-workers, bosses, yourself, and even God. With journaling work and Emotional Freedom Techniques (also known as "tapping"), you'll learn to live with more love; gain new clarity on your life, lessons, and blessings; and discover a new level of personal freedom, peace, and wellbeing. Forgiveness doesn't mean agreeing with, condoning, or even liking what has happened. Forgiveness means letting go and knowing that-regardless of how challenging, frightening, or difficult an experience may seem-everything is just as it needs to be in order for you to grow and learn. When you focus on how things "should" be, you deny the presence and power of love. Accept the events of the past, while being willing to change your perspective on them.

As Iyanla says, "Only forgiveness can liberate minds and hearts once held captive by anger, bitterness, resentment, and fear. Forgiveness is a true path to freedom that can renew faith, build trust, and nourish the soul."
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Jan 07, 2014 ke.thomas
I read the book "Forgiveness" by Iyanla Vanzant. I received the book from Hay House for review purposes. I was not compensated for the review and it is based on my own personal experience and opinion.

The book walks readers through a 21 day program of forgiveness to heal yourself. It challenges us to let of past hurts and embrace a new pattern using the power of forgiveness. The book obviously caught my attention because I wanted to read it. I was not prepared for how it would change me.

It walks readers through each step including a daily mediation, prayer, journaling, tapping and a gratitude meditation. I really liked the straightforward steps. While it sounds like a lot to do each day, it really only takes 30 to 60 minutes. In fact, each time I was closer to 30 minutes.

When I first received the book, I thought I had few things to forgive but couldn't imagine each forgiveness applied to me. Was I wrong. She identifies your mother, father, yourself, your partner, your judgments, and even God. I was surprised how much I had to forgive, especially myself. The insights I had about myself were powerful and many were surprising. So surprising that I went through it quicker than 21 days because I could not wait to get to the next step of forgiveness. Each step lead to a feeling of relief and encouragement. The relief surprised me because I did not realize the burdens I had been carrying. Forgiveness is a powerful, uplifting emotion.

I would highly recommend this book for anyone on any journey. You may be surprised at what you realize about yourself! I am grateful to Iyanla Vanzant for guiding me on my journey!
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Jan 15, 2014 MaryMikawoz
If you are going to read “Forgiveness” by Iyanla Vanzant, be prepared to do some work. Not only does Iyanla give heart-warming personal stories to make the connection between what has happened in her life to requiring forgiveness, you will be writing responses to questions and learning to tap your problems away with ProEFT.

It is funny because although Iyanla gives space in the book to write, I did not think to actually write in it until half way through. Instead, I rewrote every word of the question section which took a lot of patience on my part. Next time, I would have used the space required.

With the ProEFT, I found it necessary to get more information and so I went to the website run my Lindsay Kenney and looked up more information. I also took advantage of viewing youtube videos that were on her website. I was getting confused between reversal statements and setup statements. I seemed to have figured it out and used it with the karate chop meridian points.

As for the tapping, there are 14 meridian points that are affected. It was interesting trying to go from an intensity level of 10 down to a 0. It took patience and effort.

This book also has a CD in it. I enjoyed the Stillness Meditation and the introductions to the new day. I personally find Iyanla's voice soothing so I enjoyed listening to her.

There are other stories in some of the daily work. There is a little note above each section to indicate who wrote each section, however, I did not notice it until later and so I was confused about how the story related to Iyanla as the stories were different story lines. Just remember to read all the print.

Overall, this book is a good workbook. My only criticism is that it should have been formatted in a larger workbook format such as “Living in the Light Workbook” by Shakti Gawain. I found it hard to keep the book open to the pages I needed while copying down information. I had to memorize parts to get it transferred properly. Plus, I found it hard to keep the book open on sections that provided very specific tapping instructions on the 14 meridian points which were most helpful and gave me a better direction of what I was supposed to be tapping to. Finally, I would like to say that the tapping process is something that I was familiar with, however, never really truly worked on it. It seemed to work and I will be keeping up this type of work now that I understand it better.

If you are into having more peace and love in your life, I suggest this book for you. If you have enjoyed seeing Iyanla on TV in “Iyanla, Fix My Life” or on Oprah then this book is right in line with her other work. I found I enjoyed “Every Day I Pray” and also “Until Today.” Her work is continuous of the themes she works with in terms of compassion and forgiveness, to name two areas. It is time to move forwards with your life by forgiving everyone for everything.

I was not financially compensated for this post. I received the book from Hay House for review purposes. The opinions are completely my own based on my experience.
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Jan 20, 2014 CreateWithJoy
If you have ever been hurt or betrayed by someone you trusted – if you carry deep wounds inside that you just can’t seem to recover from – if you have difficulty forgetting how someone from your past once wronged you – then you know that forgiveness can be one of the most difficult tasks in the world. Most likely, you also know – through personal experience – that left to fester, unforgiveness will eat away at your insides and negatively impact every area of your life.

If there are areas of your life where unforgiveness resides, and you are looking for a New Thought book that will help you to identify and work through these issues, than you may be interested in Iyanla Vanzant’s new book Forgiveness – 21 Days To Forgive Everyone For Everything.

A lot of books have been written about forgiveness, but Iyanla’s book is unique in several ways. In Part 1, The Practice – Iyanla helps you to make the mind-body connection between the blocked energy in your bodies that stems from negative thoughts, beliefs, emotions and memories that results in physical or psychological pain. She provides a chart of Emotional Trigger Words to help you identify what you are feeling when you think about certain things – and she introduces a technique called the EFT Energy Tapping Process to help those with energy blockages experience release.

In Part 2, 21 Days Of Forgiveness, Iyanla identifies 21 areas to work through where we are likely to have people we need to forgive – starting with ourselves. She also includes personal stories, daily forgiveness process reminders, and journal exercises throughout this section.
Iyanla also includes a CD with the book.

What I liked most about Forgiveness is that, by going through the 21-day process, it helps you to identify areas in your life where you may need to forgive others (or yourself) that you were previously unaware of.

The book is well-written and will be appreciated by its target audience.
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