Have you struggled with weight at some point in your life?
If you're like most of us, you have either struggled physically, emotionally or both because of how much food you had or wanted to have.
For most people, food is an issue regardless of their shape.
Think about it.
Food is fuel.
But so is gasoline.
But do we ever finish putting gas in our car and immediately start planning when we are going to pump gas in our car again?
At least most people don't.
But when it comes to food, even if we don't start thinking about lunch, right after breakfast consciously, some part of us knows that we have to "last" until lunch time.
And even before lunch officially arrives, you anticipate it, or if you're home, you plan for it by preparing the meal.
Food Is Magnetic
Food is woven beautifully in our culture, traditions, celebrations and every day living. So instinctively, we're drawn to it because it is one of the most popular social practices we have.
Furthermore, another reason why food has the "pull" that it does, is because of the emotions we attach to food (sometimes enjoyment, sometimes guilt). So we enjoy eating socially. We are by nature, social eaters.
One of the most common eating patterns that brings women a lot of shame is that we sometimes opt to enjoy food in public and sometimes we enjoy food even more in private.
Perhaps our greatest shame comes when we realize that what we eat in private we wear in public.
And more important than that, is that the shame that we feel for how our body looks is evident in our interactions with others. They often take the form of insecurities.
No dress, no suit, no shoes, no makeup and no recent hair make-over can prevent us feeling insecure about our shape.
And what I've mentioned primarily focuses on how we look externally.
The saddest thing if if we shine the light internally, when we are having so many issues with our external appearance, it's almost too scary to go in alone.
But you don't have to face the reasons you overeat alone, you are not alone in your shame, you are not alone in your dilemma that has been with you ever since someone taught you what "skinny" means and what "fat" means (a word, which by the way, I personally hardly ever use).
In essence, your inside affects your outside and your outside affects your inside. And it's loving what is when it's hard to love what is that makes the cycle of weight-loss a challenging one for many people.
There Is Someone Who REALLY Understands What You've Gone Through All These Years (Or Decades, Should I Say?)
Jessica Ortner is the most compassionate person I have heard when it comes to talking candidly
about general weight struggles. This automatically makes her an author that you can relate to.
Her book, which I received free for review purposes from Hay House is called, The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More .
In it, she shares her own personal struggle with weight in a way that makes you feel less ashamed, more proactive and more likely to do something about your weight.
She offers you the tools, primarily tapping, also known as EFT, to explore your weight loss issues with lots of consciousness an self awareness which means, with a need to find the truth.
What Is EFT?
If you've become more aware of tapping the meridian points in recent years, it is very likely that it is because of the work that she and her brother Nick Ortner have done to spread the benefits of tapping.
EFT, or tapping, may sound weird, look weird and feel weird, but it is based on sound premises: ancient Chinese acupuncture and modern psychology.
So, before dismissing it as something that is "too-different" for it to work for you, try it, let Jessica guide you with her book. This review of The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More will give you the information that you need to gauge if this book is right for you.
What Does The Book Come Down To?
In a nutshell, you have to make 3 relationship changes to see your body transform:
Your relationship to food--- Food is not the enemy. Your greatest tools are love and the choices that you make with love (not-self defeat. After all, who would want to improve something that one absolutely hates). Your past struggles with food are not written in stone and you can have a different body.
Your relationship with your body-- Yes genes matter, but if you've heard of the term, epigenetics you know that in the popular battle between nature (the genes you were "dealt") and nurture (your lifestyle). Your lifestyle, wins.
The relationship with yourself.
Anybody can recommend a diet...but that's just a bandage that isn't addressing the root cause of your perpetual cycle.
There is no perfect diet, after all.
In The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More, Jessica relates stories about her patients in a way that honors them as individuals... and that honors you as you see yourself and your loved ones who've struggled with weight reflected through them.
What Is The "Magic" Weight Loss Solution?
Jessica invites you to be your own tapping patient and to approach this weight loss journey, which can be your last, with deep compassion, curiosity, respect, honor, acceptance and my favorite, LOVE.
As I've said before on my blog www.loveandtreasure.com, whatever the question, love is the answer.
Love will help you make any change that is worthwhile and lasting.
Does it require effort?
Treating, feeding, exercising, learning about nutrition and setting time aside for introspection and tapping with love will be the closest thing that you can do to being at your goal weight.
What I Liked Best About The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence:
Jessica's story and how real and relatable it was
The fact that Jessica wrote the book, not only because Jessica is so knowledgeable about the subject, but because she had that guts to write it. Weight loss is such a difficult, touchy, exhaustive and almost exhausting subject, that her determination to write about that topic is something that I'm proud of.
I applaud Jessica for her vulnerability in sharing her story, which was not easy for her... but which in my mind, is the most valuable thing in the book. Why? Because unless we get real with ourselves and our own self and body issues, we won't be able to make any progress... in weight loss, or in anything.
I like that it's geared toward women, but that it also helps men. As ladies, we know that our issues around body/self image and food are quite different than those of men. Most importantly, it comes down to how we approach this touchy subject, and Jessica approaches it in the best way. There is no author that can talk about EFT and the mainstream women's weight anywhere near as perfectly as the way that she does.
The quotations and opinions in the beginning of the book are from some of the most respectable and admirable women of our time. What they say about this book is highly positive.
Having an excerpt by Christiane Northrup is very convincing validation for how great the book is and how important the topic is, for every woman.
What I Liked The Least About The Book
It's not a bad thing, actually. Jessica is so relatable, that I almost wanted the whole book to just be about her journey to self-loving and weight-maintenance.
The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence: A Woman's Guide to Stressing Less, Weighing Less, and Loving More is a great book.
Prove it for yourself buy getting your own copy.
Now It's Your Turn
Have you read this book? If so, what do you think of it?
Do you know any other awesome books on the subject?
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