What do you get when you pair a socially awkward 30-something woman who has a touch of Asperger’s with a 20-something man who has a touch of Bipolar and BPD?
We fight. Horribly, horribly fight. Some of the worst fights I’ve ever had in my entire life were during this marriage. In fact, ALL of the worst fights I’ve had my entire life were during this marriage. And I was previously married for almost seven years. So yeah, we fight.
But we can’t seem to let go of each other, either. Not for lack of screaming at each other, demanding/threatening divorce, and various other tactics that fail miserably every time.
So considering this, I was excited to see this book, Kiss Your Fights Goodbye, by Dr. Jamie Turndorf. If there was ever any hope of us learning to not fight all the time, maybe this book could open my eyes to it.
And it’s working, slowly, in a way that I do see a bit more hope than I did before reading this book. But more than that, the conflict resolution and communication skills presented in this book are helping not just in my marriage, but in relationships at work. Socially awkward in the work place makes for some very difficult times!
The biggest shift that occurred for me after reading this book was awareness of my own reactions, and why I react that way. Through that awareness, I’m able to start responding in a less reactive manner, helping to keep the fights from escalating as much. It’s this awareness, more than anything, that has helped me gradually begin to shift the tone of our conversations, so that instead of turning into screaming matches and a battle of the wills, it becomes a more meaningful and productive conversation. Just in the weeks since receiving this book, the tactics have made a worlds of difference for us, and I’m glad I had the opportunity to review it.
I wholeheartedly recommend this book, and it can be purchased on Amazon and at Hay House.
I was not financially compensated for this post. I received the book
from Hay House for review purposes. The opinions are completely my own
based on my experience. This review is based on the Kindle version of