Every now and then you come across a book that is so important – so essential – so life-changing – you wish you could put a copy in the hands of every person who needs it.
Second Firsts – Live, Laugh, and Love Again by Christina Rasmussen is one of those books.
Second Firsts is written for people who have experienced a life-changing loss that runs so deep, that their old life vanishes in an instant and everything must be rebuilt from the ground up.
In Second Firsts, Christina offers you a viable path through the pain but – more importantly – she will help you find your way into a brighter, more vibrant future.
Christina is no stranger to grief. Although she wrote her master's thesis on the stages of bereavement, when she lost her husband after a three-year battle with cancer, she soon discovered that nothing she'd been taught or believed about the experience of profound loss was accurate.
In her opening message to her readers, Christina writes:
I have lived in the shadow of loss – the kind of loss that can paralyze you forever.
I have grieved like a professional mourner – in every waking moment, draining every ounce of my life force.
I died – without leaving my body. But I came back, and now it’s your turn.
I have learned to remember my past – without living in it.
I am strong, electric, and alive, because I chose to dance, to laugh, to love, and to live again.
I have learned that you can’t re-create the life you once had – you have to reinvent a life for yourself.
And that reinvention is a gift, not a curse.
What Christina has learned – and shares in Second Firsts – is that it’s important not to stay stuck in the “waiting room of grief”. Through her revolutionary 5-Step Life Reentry Model,
Christina helps us to move past our loss and our grief and to focus our energies on more positive aspirations – that of re-inventing a better life and a better future for ourselves.
Christina reminds us:
If you’re lost… if you’re gone… if you can barely absorb the words on this page… I want you to hold this truth in your heart: when it’s your time to go, you won’t wish you had spent more time grieving; you’ll wish you had spent more time living.
Second Firsts is an inspiring book that will retain a permanent spot on my bookshelf for years to come.
If you are having difficulty dealing with loss of any type in your life, I highly recommend Second Firsts.